commitment = freedom

The freedom behind the commitment.

I didn’t understand this at first: I thought commitment was standing against my desires & my freedom.

When things got more real, deeper & more intimate: I used to run away from the intensity (typical avoidant attachments style he).
I used to get these little impulses of doubt creeping in, insisting in ending it all & start again.
The options that I kept open as a lack of commitment, will creep in whenever things got hard. Happened to you too?

When I met my partner, I understood:

Commitment gives me a purpose… a path to walk.
A higher reason to live.

Oohhh there was so much freedom when I chose him!

When I cancelled all those options, excuses, doubts and DECIDED they weren’t going to interfere with our relationship. Only then, I found true freedom.
Commitment keeps my impulses of distraction at bay. Escaping is no longer an option.

I used to be a prisoner of my own changing thoughts.

Now there is no questioning the deep truth of my commitment.

I am free.
Within the boundaries of this agreement, I flourish.
Knowing that we are a team in this life together.

Knowing that we are both resilient & committed to navigate anything life brings.. Gives both of us safety to transform freely into new shapes… gives us the certainty that no matter what, we will talk, we will be patience, we will understand each other and we will accept one another.