Commitment is #1

Yesterday I lied to someone.

I said that communication is the most important thing and
as long as a couple has communication they will survive anything.

And it’s not true.

The most important thing is not communication… but weather you are committed to making it work or not.

You see… it depends on HOW you use those communication skills that will determine if a couple survives or not.

Are you a team or do you fantasise with leaving any time your needs aren’t met?

Are you committed to finding solutions together or do you fend for yourself?

Can you be hurt/angry/disappointed at your partner and STILL seek comfort in their arms?

Can you choose to stay open and close when your trauma comes up?

To be with someone you NEED great communication skills yes… they are essential.

However, if there is no trust in that your partner wants your happiness and he/she doesn’t mean to hurt you when things her hard..

then communication skills go out the window.

A couple will survive everything as long as there is a commitment to survive everything;

and as long as they are a team playing together not against each other.