share that trigger

“Should I bring this up in conversation even though this is my own responsibility?”

“Should I say something about how I felt even though it wasn’t his fault?”

Answer is YES.

You can do both. The fact that you are bringing something to the table doesn’t mean you are throwing the responsibility onto them.

Sharing your triggers/hurt creates the opportunity for both people in the relationship to be part of the resolution.

It allows you to feel seen in your truth.

It allows you to have reassurance from your partner.

All while taking responsibility for how you feel.