≜ ADVENTURE ≜ The missing ingredient?
You went from panicking at the thought of your SO smelling your fart, to straight shitting in front of them while they brush their teeth (well.. at least in my case).
THINGS GET COMFY when you are committed and solid AF.
Things become smooooooth like never before. You think you are nailing the relationship thing because there are no fights & no disappointments (and no so much passion either ?).
And then... BUM!
You are attracted to somebody else... or everybody else.
You wonder what is happening. You start fantasising about how a relationship with the guy at the workshop would be like.
If you are like me you think “Oh it’s you again! The tempting cheating devil... I thought I got rid of you already” because this happened to you many times before.
Perhaps your technique is to wait it out, let the crush dissolve by itself. Perhaps you feel like a prisoner of the relationship you are stuck in, which doesn’t allow you to feel alive and follow the impulse. (That’s all me).
This happens every single time “the unknown”... that ingredient that tastes like adventure and mystery is nowhere to be found within a relationship.
THE “prohibited” becomes a tempting source of aliveness, passion, mystery and the unknown.
So my ramble today on here, as I come back from my Social Media Detox (...yeah, it’s been a month folks!) is to remind us all that in order to keep our relationships
HAPPY & ALIVE,
and to AVOID the CHEATING (and the desire to cheat)
... is to keep up the ADVENTURE in your relationship.
Simple:
if you are not satisfied where you are... you will seek elsewhere.
And a good relationship is a priority, not an accident.
Working alongside your partner to overcome this obstacles is the only way you find happiness in a long term relationship.
Some questions to ask ourselves regularly:
In which areas can I still find “the unknown” amongst to much certainty?
How can I cultivate more mystery in my relationship?
What did you used to do at the beginning of the relationship that you aren’t doing anymore?