Co-parent Relationships are the most complex of relationships.

Master this relationship and you’ll be able to master almost any  😉

I get it: your romantic relationship didn’t work out and now you have to see your ex for the next many years to come. 

AND, they are directly and powerfully connected with the most vulnerable parts of your heart and what you love most: your children.

Here we have a recipe for disaster, and unfortunately it often is.

You might have reached a “good enough” state where your relationships is functional: finally got down some sort of loose agreement, and it was hard to get here… yet, you still encounter some of these problems?

Here is a list of what most co-parents complain about:

  • having poor communication (lack of it, conflict, not feeling seen or understood),

  • having a schedule that feels unfair and inconsistent (confusing, always changing, unclear).

  • that the agreements get broken and the boundaries crossed and there isn’t true repair.

  • differences in the parenting approach that makes you feel you cannot trust their ability to care for your child, you might lack details of what happens on the other parent home.

  • you might find yourself in a world of white lies, people pleasing your ex so you can keep things “good”, but never really able to speak about what hurts you.

And in most of cases these parents ALSO experience:

a lack of understanding of what a boundary actually is or how to put one in place (and what to do when it gets crossed); trying to control how the other parent does things because we think our way is best, feeling like your partner wants to take your child away from you, blaming rather than taking responsibility for your actions & getting into conflict you cannot resolve.

If you feel this resonates with you, let me tell you what sits at the bottom of this iceberg: 

This lack of flow in your relationship can stem from two big foundational pieces that all relationships need in order to thrive:

SAFETY & CURIOSITY.

  • When there is a lack of safety (most commonly in this relationships is emotional safety) we protect ourselves and default to coping mechanisms we learnt in the past, often unconscious and dysfunctional. Think putting walls up and shutting down or anxiously seeking approval, and neglecting your own needs to keep the status quo, and more.

Lack of emotional safety can also prevent us from speaking our truth (fear of conflict, of being hurt or ignored) and miss out on the opportunity that navigating difficult moments as a family can bring.

  • When there is a lack of curiosity we assume that we know the person in front of us. We assume they don’t know what they are doing with our children, we assume their differences are just wrong. With curiosity we can keep an open mind and learn from each other without harsh judgements.

Addressing these foundational underlying problems, as long with others, will create more ease and trust to be able to solve all of the above: boundaries, schedules, parenting styles, etc.

It’s not easy and yes, it is risky business… but nothing good and worth living for in life comes from just “easy”.

Having flow, harmony and connection with the other co-parent will bring you much joy to your life and your children. 

If you, with or without your co-parent, want to have a truly deeply fulfilling co-parenting relationship in which you can trust each other, bounce ideas with each other, make choices that are truly for the best of the family and model a secure emotional attachment to your kids for the many years you have ahead of you: you’ve come to the right place.

MOVING FROM A “GOOD ENOUGH” TO A THRIVING POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP.

Your relationship with your co-parent is good enough and you have finally managed to arrive at a place where things have a rhythm and they are functioning.

AND you at the same time you know that this relationship could be so much better. Better for you, and for your children. Deep down you would love that, but perhaps don’t think is possible… IT IS! possible: but to have a truly THRIVING POSITIVE relationship, you need to put in some work.

Having a solid, safe & growth mindset relationship between divorced co-parents will help you set your children up for success in life, and will give you both the mental wellbeing you crave.

But don’t believe just me.. here is what the research says..

  1. Reduced Conflict and Stress: When divorced parents maintain friendly relationships, it reduces the level of conflict and tension in the family environment. Conflict between parents are linked to negative outcomes for children, including behavioral problems, emotional distress, and academic difficulties.

  2. Emotional Security: Children feel more emotionally secure when they witness their parents getting along. This sense of security can contribute to better emotional and psychological outcomes for children of divorced parents.

  3. Co-Parenting Effectiveness: Effective co-parenting involves cooperation, communication, and mutual support in parenting decisions and responsibilities. Children benefit from consistent routines, clear expectations, and feeling supported by both parents.

  4. Role Modeling: Parents who demonstrate respect and cooperation despite their divorce provide positive role models for their children. This can teach children valuable lessons about conflict resolution, empathy, and healthy relationships.

  5. Improved Adjustment: Children of divorced parents who observe positive parental relationships are more likely to adjust well to the divorce and its aftermath.

  6. Long-Term Outcomes: Research suggests that the quality of the relationship between divorced parents continues to influence children into adolescence and adulthood.

You know that kids feel everything.. things might be “looking” good from the outside, but if there is tension underneath, lack of trust, conflict, your kids will feel it.

HOW DO I WORK?

THIS IS AN 8 WEEK JOURNEY THAT WILL SUPPORT IN:

  • Talking about your NEEDS, VALUES & Boundaries as a parent and as a person.

  • Feeling seen, heard and understood by your partner, AND learning communication techniques that will support you to listen with empathy so you can support your co-parent to feel seen and understood as-well.

  • Creating a “team” mindset so you can drop the defensiveness and stay committed to finding solutions that satisfy all of you.

  • Discussing parenting styles, your different choices and your children’s needs so you can trust each of the parents are doing a great job.

  • Creating a co-parent manifesto that will serve as a reminder and a bigger picture of this journey.

  • Becoming aware of your feelings, and learning ways in which you can support each other through this journey.

  • Taking responsibility of your co-parent relationship so you can trully make empowered choices as a family.

  • Learning how to navigate conflict and difficult challenges between the parents.

Let me introduce you to a metaphor I like to use.

Imagine your child is paragliding through the air from point A (their birth) to point B (the time they become fully independent).

You are the kite, and the other parent is the harness.

For this child to arrive safely to destination there has to be a great coordination, communication and trust between the kite and the harness. You cannot paraglide without the other. It is a team work in which all parts are equally important and necessary. The child might use their hands to navigate: choose preferences and such, however, the kite and harness see what’s possible within the limitations of the environment.

If the connection between the kite and the harness is blocked or troubled, we will start to see some failures that unfortunately, to the detriment of the child. It is your responsibility as the adult to address these issues so the child has the best journey possible and arrives to point B fully equiped with great tools and examples to thrive in life.

 

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What my clients say…

  • "You helped me shift my perspective on even causal dating and being authentic and real with where I’m at. You helped me realise that even in a casual relationship, I should only accept someone who accepts all of me and every version and to embody what you’re feeling"

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  • "I love the strong mirror you bring to every interaction. You've helped me to accept more of myself and to meet myself in reverence. Your sharings inspired me to hold a new level of what I will stand for with my own relationships."

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  • "My call with Juliana helped me shift the stagnant energy I was facing in life on a day to day basis. Her practical approach and problem solving skills were refreshing and motivating. She helped me compartmentalise some of my problems, which I discovered were disguised opportunities. Her guidance helped me towards finding my own answers! Thanks Juliana, much love"

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  • "We know that everytime we get to this call is going to be a productive call... because I feel there is plenty of things that I don't talk about as well as when we are in a space with you. We know that this is a safe space for us to share how we feel and what we want"

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  • "Juliana really cares about us. We feel very supported"

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  • “I would say to anyone thinking of working with you that I highly recommend you. In a month I managed to make progress in areas of my life that were very stuck, and to rethink my own ways and patterns. I succeeded in seeing other people and situations in my life from a more objective place. I healed and advanced heaps in the process of letting go of my relationship with my ex. You also supported me with moving away from the place of mothering my ex partner and into prioritising myself as a woman. You are the best! You helped me on such a deep level that not even the psychologist I’ve been seeing for longer could. It was a very fast and practical process with you.”

    Gisel

  • I really recommend working with Juliana. It was very easy to open up to her and I felt unjudged and comfortable. It really gave me a lot of insights. I have noticed a massive change in our relationship. It has really helped me heal from some past issues we had. Was able to discuss our issues as a couple in a safe environment and come up with ways to help move forward with our issues.

    Anna B

  • I have only had one session with Juliana and what stood out to me was her humility and honesty. I appreciated her transparency and the simple explanation of what I could expect the session to look like. Despite some technical issues at my end, Juliana was able to pivot and provide a more than worthwhile session which provided me with clarity. Juliana also followed up post session to offer a recap of our session in written form, which I appreciated. Over all, I enjoyed the session with Julianna. What set her apart from other Coaches is her willingness to grow in her practice skills through reflective feedback which she invites from her clients. Definitely worth investing in a session.

    Fiona

Change your relationship in 8 weeks

CONNECTED CO-PARENTS - ONLINE COACHING SESSIONS

ONE ON ONE: 1 session a week for 8 Weeks $800 —> 55 min sessions

ONE ON TWO: 1 session a week for 8 Weeks $1120 —> 75 min sessions

Sessions come with a complementary email after the session with reflections, notes and suggestions to integrate.

Payment options available.

ALL SESSIONS MUST BE PAID A WEEK IN ADVANCE.

FULL REFUND WHEN CANCELLED AT LEAST 48 HOURS BEFORE THE SESSION.

NOTE: If you want to work with me, but cannot afford my prices, please let me know.

I am open to a few koha (gift donation) sessions a month.

Why work with me!?

>> My ability to navigate through emotionally charged moments with mental clarity helps me see through the stories that people tell themselves, and my creative mind helps me find ways to make things work and offer honest reflections for people to see what they want in their lives.

>> I am trained as an Inside Out Coach, a type of relational and therapeutic coaching that relies on the building of rapport, trust and the somatic experience of the body.

>> My down-to-earth & radical-honesty nature combined with years of personal experience in relationships makes me an exceptional guide.

>> I have a humble approach, I am someone you can connect to on a human level and I am genuine in what I do. This is a RELATIONSHIP between us, not a download of lessons.

>> Honesty, clear communication and ultimate responsibility are my biggest values, which you can expect when working with me.

>> I believe you have your own answers. I am here to reflect back on what I see and perceive while empowering you to trust your inner wisdom.

FAQs

  • Sometimes the other parent isn’t there yet, or they feel it isn’t necessary. And that’s ok. There is still plenty of discoveries and changes you can make on yourself that will impact your relationship. Focusing on you first would be a great start.

  • Yes, AND only after completing an 8 weeks journey with me. This fundamental initial 8 weeks gives us the groundwork, rapport and safety we need to be able to make ever lasting changes... so it's imperative we have this foundation before becoming casual.

  • That’s a great question. I like to start our sessions with a check in - we each share what is present for us in that moment, I like to be real too. I also like to know where we are at in the day so we can honour our needs.

    We then discuss what we want to focus the session on, each individual will have different priorities and needs so we will decide that is most needed, and how can we fulfil all the desires together. As you share, I might reflect back to you what I hear, or ask questions to think deeper or from different perspectives.

    At the end of the session, I would do a summary with you, and together find some ideas on what to work on until our next session. I write an email at the end of our sessions withe the main points discovered and the homework so you don’t forget!

  • I am a certified Inside Out Coach with Primal Intelligence. I also have a two-year degree in Psychological Astrology. And knowledge in NVC, Imago AND Attachment.

I am on the edge or my partner won’t want to join me.

 

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Hola!

I am Juliana. I am a mother, a daughter, an astrologer, a gardener, a rebel, a builder and an Inside Out Relationships Coach.

I am passionate about relationships - I truly believe that healing the way we relate to others and to ourselves will heal the world.

My romantic, friendly and familiar relationships have transformed me and taught me my biggest life lessons, and I am convinced that is through navigating differences through relating that we grow wiser and stronger.

I was born and raised in Argentina, and moved to New Zealand at 20 years old initially interested in exploring but, quickly after, to create a new home.

It took me quite some time to find that sweet spot between what I love and what I am good at. First I studied Sociology in Buenos Aires, then studied 3D Animation in Auckland, held an art exhibition and had a very successful house painting business for 4 years.

Nowadays, I live in Oratia with my partner Tom, his daughter Hazel, and our toddler Aspen. My hobbies are building (yep, we are building our strawbale house!), gardening, adventuring, learning new skills, art and astrology.

People often describe me as brave, bold, honest, great communicator, helpful and practical. I will leave the rest for you!